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Women: Love Thyself First

I'm sitting here thinking about my story and the stories of others that I've heard over the last year. The more I think about it, the more I realize the importance of loving thyself first. You can't make a man love you. He will only love you when he is ready. And when he is ready, he will love you the only way he knows how. Will it be the way that satisfies you? Maybe not. So we have got to get to the point where we love ourselves more. So much more, that we are not willing to accept anything less than we deserve. Love yourself enough to demand what you need. Love yourself enough to say "no, that won't work." Women, we have to love ourselves enough to know when our relationships are one-sided. Love yourself enough to not go any further with someone until they show you they can love you the way you need to be loved. Because I promise, if you keep loving with the hopes that they will change, you're gonna find yourself angry and bitter. What motivation does anyone have to change their behaviors if they're continuing to get exactly what they want by doing exactly what they have always done? 
You have got to know what you bring to the table and refuse to sit at one with a man who doesn't match your effort. 

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